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Matriarchy

In Lessons, Life, Work on May 29, 2011 by kiltforhire Tagged: , , ,

I’m from Glasgow in Scotland. Most people seem to think that Glasgow is full of tough men who would beat you up in a second if you looked at them the wrong way, and it can be like that at times but behind every Glaswegian hard bloke is a Glaswegian woman who he is terrified of.

Their mums.

Most Scotsmen will not stand for ‘your mum’ jokes simply because you don’t make jokes about someone’s mum. It’s their mum for fucks sake. You do not do this. You show respect to mums.

You listen when a Scottish mother speaks. You do what she tells you. You do not provoke her anger for her wrath knows no bounds.

My great gran was the matriarch of our family (on one side not the other), followed by my gran (she ran the roost between her and her sisters/brothers) and I guess now my mum. Decisions are made by these strong women and men listen when the words are said.

But in business I have noticed how many men fail to listen to women and sometimes they dismiss them as if they don’t know what they are talking about. I’ve seen men in meetings with women talk to them like dirt. I’ve seen men sit with their legs wide open scratching their balls in front of women.

And in many occasions I’ve said something. It’s rude to treat women like that anywhere.

I treat women with respect because where I come from they are the bosses. If my dad was angry at me for something I was scared. If my mum was angry at me for doing something wrong I wanted to run and hide … forever!!

Everyone you work with should be shown the same courtesy whether they are male or female.

On another not I will say that over my years working I have noticed that some women will happily betray or backstab other women to get up the ladder which I find horrible. Not seen it so often with men but I have no doubt it happens also.

The point of this blog post? Don’t mess with Scottish women. They will fuck your shit up.

And the second point is that women are as skilled as men and the old guard need to start realising this.

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5 Responses to “Matriarchy”

  1. You respect women because you fear them? That is neither a good idea nor true respect. Respect them when they actually are worthy of respect, e.g. through proved wisdom.

    As for women in the office, I cannot speak for more than my own experiences (and I grant that my sample could be larger), but these experiences have been largely negative, most of my female colleagues not being up to par in terms of e.g. generating ideas, following lines of reasoning, communicating effectively and efficiently, being well-read in the theory, and similar. Could it not be that the women you mention were dismissed because they actually did not know what they were talking about—not just because they were women? How were competent women and incompetent men treated?

    • You obviously read more into that than you should. I fear Scottish women but have nothing but respect for all women.

      Maybe I should have explained it better. I was brought up to respect strong women for their ability to cope with situations and families. During that time I also learned to be scared of my mum – who I love more than life for her compassion and care for all those around her I just also know not to get on the wrong side of her.

      As for the women I worked with. They were very competent and good at their job but I’ve seen men treat them with disrespect and I’ve seen incompetent men get promoted. Hell I’ve seen a guy who was pulled up for sexual harassment of a staff member get promoted!

  2. My mum is fucking terrifying.

    Absolutely terrifying.

  3. My mum hit me over the head with a broom for being rude to her when I was a boy.

    But she didn’t fly away on it!

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